The Top Three Most Worthless Online Dating Criteria – Christie Hartman, PhD

Good morning, my friends. I know most of you have some practice dating online, and many of you are doing so presently. Online dating – and all its challenges – could provide us enough discussion fodder to last for years.

Spil many of you know, I periodically get online and check out people’s profiles. When you pack out a profile, you have two main purposes: tell people about yourself, and tell people what you’re looking for. And albeit there are exceptions, the media person goes after a pattern: they’re generic when conveying who they are te their write-ups, but specific te selecting what they want from a multiplicity of drop-down menus. And while this isn’t the best strategy, it makes sense, right? It’s much lighter to choose from a menukaart than write an verhandeling that succinctly sums up the unique person you are.

But the menus are a problem. People concentrate too much on the menus. Height. Weight. Bod type. Income. Hair color. Eye color. Education. Neck circumference. Toe grind color. Whether you choose skinny or flare jeans.

Many of thesis criteria cause more problems than they solve because they can severely limit your options. After all, most people are willing to be limber with their criteria for the right person. But there are three criteria that are utterly futile online, and shouldn’t even be included on the sites at all. Here they are:

It totally cracks mij up to see some people state that they want blue or green eyes, but not brown, or that dark hair is okay, but not crimson. Yes, wij all have our preferences, but I ensure you that whatever pigment you aim to avoid, there is someone you’d be attracted to who has it. Reminisce, when you state preferences online, they become requirements. Spil such, I recommend you disregard thesis criteria when selecting who you want to meet.

Most of what makes the figure type criterion worthless is what researchers would call “measurement issues.” When wij say wij have blue eyes or brown hair, everyone knows what that means. But when you see “athletic and toned” or “curvy,” be ready for a diversity of bod types because everyone has a different idea of what thesis terms mean. “Athletic and toned” can refer to a trim, gezond person or it can mean, “I’m neither skinny strafgevangenis fat.” “Curvy” can mean hourglass figure or overweight.

I say disregard figure type when selecting or searching for people to meet. Why rule out people overheen measurement error? Instead, go by the photos. Whatever their stated figure type, you’ll either find them attractive or you won’t.

I have a reasonable number of friends te my life. Guess how many of them have collective their incomes with mij? Two. The two are a duo that my hubby and I are close to. That’s it. So if I don’t know my friends’ incomes, and they don’t know mine, why should a bunch of strangers know yours? More importantly, why should your income be a hacedor ter their wanting to date you??

I say income has no business on an online dating webpagina. You divulge incomes when you build trust with someone, mostly likely because you’re ter a relationship. Besides, while income does tell you something about how a person lives, it tells you nothing about whether that person is a good match for you or how he/she will treat you. And guys, like I discuss ter Switching Your Spel, if you earn good money and say so online, you’ll attract women who search on income.

If you want to succeed at online dating, don’t get caught up te criteria that limit you more than help you.

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